You don’t have to do a stinkin’ thing to be lovable! You just have to show up and be your imperfect messy self!
I’m Patricia Young. I live near North Park (San Diego, CA) with my husband, twin teenage boys, and Gracie, the handi-capable wonderdog.
My guess is that you want to know if I know what I’m doing, and maybe you’re wondering why I love working with women who feel like they’re not enough.
I want you to know that I’ve struggled with feeling like an imposter and feared that I was too much. I felt wrong for being a deep thinker, and never wanting to hurt anybody’s feelings.
It sucks feeling like something is wrong with you (and other people have no problem telling you this). Eventually you come to believe that something is wrong with you. I’ve lived that pain, and I want EVERYONE to know that what’s wrong with you is actually what’s right with you! I was always told I was too sensitive. I AM sensitive, and it makes me an incredibly compassionate therapist (friend, parent and spouse)!
As women, we learn that we’re not supposed to be loud, or take up too much space, or be too needy, or to hurt other people’s feelings. We learn to give and put everyone else’s needs first. We often have nothing left for ourselves after giving to everyone else!
My hope for you is that you feel seen and heard, and you know that your feelings and experiences are totally normal. Together we will look at that nasty gremlin voice in your head that’s always telling you what a screw up you are. You will learn to turn down the volume! We will work on having you experience a sense of connection and belonging (to yourself and others).
Therapy is a place where vulnerability is sacred and honored; you just show up and be totally who you are. The messier, the better! We work on embracing your imperfection-this is what makes you unique, precious and lovable!
How Therapy Works
We decide together what’s important for you to focus on. You get to decide
- How much you want to share
- How fast you want to open up
Having said that, in order to do the best work, it’s important that
- You’re committed to therapy
- Weekly sessions provide the best structure for growth
- You still get to decide how fast and deep you go.
We all have a sense of what we need to heal. My job is to help you find that place inside of you that intuitively knows what you need. Then I help guide you on your path, give you feedback, and gently re-direct you.
Especially as women, we tend to think that other people “know better” than we do, and often we allow ourselves to be bullied and pushed. You should have a great connection with your therapist! Your therapist cannot read your mind or know “what’s good for you.” If the only thing you get from being on this webpage is this, then I’m ok-You have to feel that your therapist “gets” you, and respects you and your process.
My therapeutic approach is gentle, compassionate, and very accepting; however, this doesn’t mean that I will just sit and nod during your sessions. I actively participate, and I will be honest with you, and I will encourage you to push and challenge yourself. For you to get the most out of therapy, you need to be willing to be uncomfortable and look at what’s not working. We will work together on doing this in manageable bite-size pieces, so you don’t feel like it’s too much!
WALK & TALK THERAPY
Some people feel more at ease being outdoors and moving. If you choose, we can walk in the area around my office during our sessions. We walk at a slow to moderate pace (depending on your needs) for part or all of the session.
What I love
Due to health reasons, I made some diet and lifestyle changes a few years ago. I learned how to take care of myself and my body. I do yoga a few times a week, go to the gym, lift weights, take walks and kayak from time to time. I do these things because I want to be healthy and strong.
I do NOT specialize in eating disorders, but if you struggle with overeating, we can work on the underlying issues and I’m happy to direct you to resources where you can get direct support with food and nutrition.
GRACIE, THE HANDI-CAPABLE WONDERDOG
Gracie has been trained as a service dog, and she came to work with me when I worked at a hospital. Patients and staff loved her. She is a calm, gentle spirit, and if you like the healing energy of dogs, you can choose to have her join you in your session.
Gracie is almost blind. She can’t locate the direction of sound, but she seems to get around fairly well, and her temperament is just as sweet as it always was.
California Licensed Clinical Social Worker #23459 since 2006
MSW, Graduate School of Social Work, San Diego State University 1998
B.A. Social Work, San Diego State University
A.A. Interpreting for the Deaf-honors, San Diego Mesa College
A.S. Selected Studies-honors, San Diego Mesa College
Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MSBR)
The Art & Science of Mindful Self-Compassion
The Collaborative Problem Solving Approach
Marianne Williamson-Mid-Life Awakening
The Body Keeps the Score Trauma Healing
Ages and Stages of Learning and ADHD
Brain Warrior’s Way
Non-Violent Crisis Intervention
Extensive work with 12-step programs